Cyclothymic Cister

Before the Internet, I used to lie in bed at night composing thoughts as if I were talking to a wise entity. (An actual face never came to mind). I would re-word and re-phrase the thoughts till they were crystal clear. Now I can blog. And hopefully, there are a lot of wise people with real faces out there who might just comment back.

Thursday, February 22, 2007

I’m Indignant

If I hear one more person my age say that we should let our teenager children have their fun and sow their wild oats, I am going to scream. They say, “Don’t you remember how we were at that age?”

First of all, just because one generation does something, does not justify behavior or make it acceptable for the next.

Besides, the world is different now. This is not “American Graffiti” or “Grease”. And at least the hippie’s had a cause. Today is different.

Don’t tell me we should let young people play. “Play” leads to drugs, shoplifting, porno, perversion, rape, pregnancy, disease, felonies, prison and/or death. Meth, brain damage, rotten teeth, babies being neglected and exposed to caustic chemicals. DUI’s, car accidents, manslaughter. Grandmother’s raising grandchildren. Grandchildren crying for absent parents. Financial depletion of loved ones and a burden on society. All for the sake of giving our children space to kick up their heels!

I know from experience. Take my word for it. Or why don’t you take a look at what your teenagers are writing in their letters to one another and in their diaries and on their blogs. It will shock even the most liberal parent. Don’t gasp at what I’ve just said and say, I trust my child and would never think of invading their privacy. Don’t be fooled. They are great manipulators and cons. We have an obligation to try to head them off before they slip into the pit. I would rather give them boundaries and put up with the resulting temper tantrums than to get a call in the middle of the night from the jail or the morgue. I wish I had put up with more tantrums.


At 2:56 PM, Anonymous cardiogirl said...

Yes, today's society seems far too open to me. I guess it's a "Jerry Springer" philosophy.

We are trying to put are arms around our children with space to move, but no so much space as to run away. It's difficult and I am hopeful what we teach our children will stay with them.

However, I don't kid myself. I do believe my children will lie to me and make poor choices. I just hope they don't push the boundaries too far.

At 6:52 AM, Blogger Cyclothymic Cister said...

cardio girl: Being a parent is not for the faint of heart, for sure. I wish you much success with your children.

At 9:53 PM, Blogger Jordan said...

It's so true about putting up with the tantrums. With my job, I see every day the result of parents who either have completely neglected their kids or have tried to control them to the point of abuse. Kids needs some structure and some independence, but too much of either can be harmful to their mental development.


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